Is it selfish if I don't want to share my baby names with my family?

I'm expecting and I have a few names picked out and I am pretty set on the names I have. My parents keep asking what names I have in mind but I refuse to tell them. Not in a mean way though. My husband says Im being selfish but I don't feel that way. I want to introduce my baby after it is born and have everyone hear the name then for the first time. Is that selfish?Is it selfish if I don't want to share my baby names with my family?
Absolutely not,you are not obliged to share your baby names with your family...I would personally share but wouldn麓t let my family choose my baby麓s name
It's not selfish, in the old days we didn't know the sex of the baby either,

There is always possibility you could even lose

the child too. I think you are being prudent and smart don't give in to them.

Tell them its a surprise and leave it at that.Is it selfish if I don't want to share my baby names with my family?
Do as you wish. It's your and your husband baby not their. ^^Is it selfish if I don't want to share my baby names with my family?
Not at all. I see where you're coming from :)
hummm...

yes, it's a bit selfish...



but if you want to get smart with it, share them with your family, let them to suggest whatever they want, and finally decide your best name.
Not at all

You just want to surprise them and stick to the names you have picked. Most people will suggest baby names which I kinda hate. Its understandable if you don't want to tell them.
I don't think so! If you wanted to get them off your back though, you could just tell them several o the names you like (don't tell them which one you picked), and tell them they are welcome to share their opinions but they aren't going to change your mind.

Good luck!:)
No, not at all. Perfectly normal that the first anyone knows of what you are going to call your child is the birth announcement.
No, not at all selfish. Quite wise and smart, really. Don't let your husband get you down, it's not against the law to keep your baby's name options to yourself.
no
I understand completely. Although I am not planning on having kids anytime soon, a child is your own child, and sometimes if you tell someone a name they will spoil it for you and turn you off what could have been the perfect name for your future daughter or son. Also, you might be pressured into using family names or choosing something else, simply because you feel bad that your family doesn't like it. And I think it should be a surprise, it is a new little person and you should give it a new little name of your own choosing. You might also be judged if you say one name and when the baby is born you choose another just because it looks like a different name, if you know what I mean. I think it is the right choice; you aren't being selfish. It is your little person, after all.

:-) Congratulations!
Not at all!

I completely plan on keeping my chosen names secret, for a multitude of reasons.



For one, you don't want any other expectant mothers you might know to steal your names.



Secondly, it has been my experience that people are far less likely to make any rude or negative comments on the child's name once it is already born and named. I like that because it is my baby after all, and I want to name it whatever name I like...without having to deal with others putting their two cents in on my decision.



And finally, since I plan on finding out the sex, it is fun to keep at least something a surprise :)



But it is a personal decision, and whether you choose to divulge the name or not is completely up to you...and is not selfish at all :)
No it's not selfish -- it's wonderful! I know a couple that just did this and it was a wonderful surprise for everyone to hear the name. We now know the sex of children before they are born- let's keep something a surprise! Plus everyone has opinions on a name and it saves you from all the criticism. The couple I know just said they were keeping it a secret. Once he or she was born I could see why they did - I loved the name but the grandparents were not thrilled. It will be so much fun to keep it a surprise. If you want to give your husband a demonstration of what he's in for when someone asks what name you are thinking of give them something strange that doesn't fit your last name - he'll understand once he gets a half hour of "other suggestions".
No not at all. I made that Mistake. If I had a girl I wanted the name Sarah after my Great Grandma because my sweet wonderful grandma asked me to name my baby Sarah after her mom if I had a girl . My grandma passed away before my son was born. My older Brother name his daughter that passed away Sarah then my youngest Brother took that name too . Pissed me off.
I think that's fine. I mean, it's your baby and sometimes people feel the need to push opinions on baby names even when unsolicited (especially family). If you want to avoid that, that's fine...and I think it's cute to just have the surprise of, "This is Angie" or what have you. I think that's rather sweet. Just be sure to explain it to them in a nice way and I feel like you'll be fine.